5 things you should never do after finding out your partner cheated

“The nature of relationships is such that one can never be completely certain about the actions of their partner; the only certainty lies in one’s own actions and choices.

When faced with the revelation of a partner’s infidelity, whether through confession or discovery, a torrent of emotions may engulf you, ranging from feelings of rejection to betrayal. However, how you respond to this information is paramount. Here are some actions to avoid:

1. Property Damage: Refrain from resorting to destructive behavior, such as damaging their belongings, including televisions, cars, or furniture, and behaving irrationally. Such actions not only diminish your self-respect but also risk legal consequences. Violence should never be your recourse.

2. Interrogation: Avoid asking your partner why they cheated. This approach leaves you vulnerable to manipulation. Understanding the reasons behind their actions won’t change the fact that they made a conscious choice to cheat. If they had concerns about the relationship, they should have communicated them instead of cheating.

3. Stalking and Confrontation: Resist the temptation to investigate or confront the person with whom your partner cheated. Your partner’s choice was to be with them, not you. Instead, focus on addressing the issues within your own relationship and maintaining your self-respect.

4. Begging and Crying: Public displays of pleading and crying can diminish your self-worth in your partner’s eyes. While it’s natural to feel emotional, try to manage these feelings privately or with the support of friends. Begging and crying to persuade them to stay rarely leads to a healthy outcome.

5. Revenge Cheating: Responding to infidelity with infidelity only perpetuates a cycle of harm. Engaging in a tit-for-tat approach seldom results in resolution. Instead, take time to decide whether forgiveness is possible. If not, it may be best to part ways and heal independently.”